For some reason, the subject of friendships has been on my mind the past few days. I feel like I know a lot of people but don’t have a lot of friends. I would probably say that I have six close friends, a couple dozen people I consider friends, and a lot of acquaintances. Sometimes I wonder if my thinking is off on this or if I should even be thinking about it at all.
I know very few people I would actually call if there was some sort of emergency or if I needed some sort of help. I wonder if this is because I think most people I know like me but not enough to “be there” in a time of need.
There are a few people I want to be better friends with but feel like I am the one always making the effort. And if that is the case, are these people that are worth having as friends? At what point do I just write them off and just move on?
Yeah. Probably overthinking this and should just go grab a cocktail instead.
The subject feels complicated and simple at the same time. It seems to me that we fall naturally into what becomes our circle of friends, almost like a kind of circumstance determines it for us. When it comes to people I’d like to be friendlier with, I always ask myself: How does this relationship make me feel? If the answer isn’t positive, I’ll typically leave it alone.
Those relationships that I want to be better make me feel good when we hang out and do friend things … but it doesn’t make me feel good that I am always the one initiating contact. So it’s positive but also negative. Ugh.
Not sure why this has been on my mind so much this week.
Ah well, Chas. You are one of my favourite virtual people, and if I had to save a handful for lifelong contact, you’d be there.
Awwww. You are awesome, Dave … and one of my favorite virtual friends!